How Do I Attract A Good Christian Guy? A Teen from the Bible Gives Her Perspective, by Daniel Darling

Posted: March 8, 2010 in Dating and Relationships
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Rebekah Speaks Today: “You may find the right person to marry when you’re least expecting it.”

Hit movies, novels and TV dramas all seem to want you to think that they have the right answers when it comes to attracting a good guy. But you might be surprised to know that Rebekah had all the answers, even 4,000 years ago. She attracted a soul mate without trying at all — as should be the case.

It’s not that Rebekah didn’t care how she looked. In fact, the Bible talks about her rare beauty. But her life wasn’t consumed with her looks or with trying to attract a guy. Her life was consumed with serving others and God. Her physical appearance wasn’t flawed by her character. She evidently spent more time working on her inner beauty than her outer beauty.

And guess what! Rebekah was exactly the type of girl Isaac wanted and his father’s servant went searching for. He wasn’t looking for someone obsessively boy crazy or a flirt. He was looking for something different.

It’s hard not to be consumed in finding or maintaining relationships. And it’s tough not to spend these years in anxious worry about who likes you or whom you like. But God has a much better way: the worry-free path of obedience, trust and gentle grace.

Just Like You
OK, so you say you’re not worried about finding the perfect guy, but you’re not planning on being a nun, either. So you wonder, How exactly do I go about attracting a godly man? Here are a few things that worked for Rebekah:

  • Don’t try to be noticed. Rebekah wasn’t asking for attention. She was just doing her job. She didn’t hide, but she didn’t go out of her way to try to get noticed, either.
  • Make every day count. Rebekah must have made it a point to look nice each and every trip to the well. She always brought her best personality, attitude and appearance.
  • Guard your purity. Abraham’s servant immediately sensed Rebekah’s purity. Purity encompassed who she was as a young woman. This purity made her more attractive for the man God would bring across her path.
  • Put others first. Often those who give the most to serve others seem to experience blessings as a result. Don’t be so obsessed with pursuing a godly guy that you edge and elbow yourself to the front of every line, on every stage and into every supposedly cool crowd. Instead, let your service do the talking.

Think About It
Are you the kind of girl that a godly guy would be interested in? What areas of your life need improvement to first bring you closer to God and then to make you more spiritually attractive to others? Spend some time seriously thinking about these questions. Pray about them this month.

Ask God to help you start becoming the godly woman right now that your future husband will need.

Daniel Darling is an author and pastor with a passion for young people. He is the author of Teen People of the Bible, a 100-day devotional for teens. Visit him on Facebook by clicking here, or at


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